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The 200th Hug

Posted by kathavarta on December 11, 2008

My father’s skin was jaundiced as he lay hooked up to monitors and intravenous tubes in the intensive care unit of the hospital. Normally a well-built man, he had lost more than 30 pounds.

My father’s illness had been diagnosed as cancer of the pancreas, one of the most malignant forms of the disease. The doctors were doing what they could but told us that he had only three to six months to live. Cancer of the pancreas does not lend itself to radiation therapy or chemotherapy, so they could offer little hope.

A few days later, when my father was sitting up in bed, I approached him and said, Dad, I feel deeply for what’s happened to you. It’s helped me to look at the ways I’ve kept my distance and to feel how much I really love you. I leaned over to give him a hug, but his shoulders and arms became tense. Come on, Dad, I really want to give you a hug.

For a moment he looked shocked. Showing affection was not our usual way of relating. I asked him to sit up some more so I could get my arms around him. Then I tried again. This time, however, he was even more tense. I could feel the old resentment starting to build up, and I began to think I don’t need this. If you want to die and leave me with the same coldness as always, go right ahead.

For years I had used every instance of my father’s resistance and rigidness to blame him, to resent him and to say to myself, See, he doesn’t care. This time, however, I thought again and realized the hug was for my benefit as well as my father’s. I wanted to express how much I cared for him no matter how hard it was for him to let me in. My father had always been very Germanic and duty-oriented; in his childhood, his parents must have taught him how to shut off his feelings in order to be a man. Letting go of my long-held desire to blame him for our distance, I was actually looking forward to the challenge of giving him more love. I said, C’mon, Dad, put your arms around me. I leaned up close to him at the edge of the bed with his arms around me. Now squeeze. That’s it. Now again, squeeze. Very good! In a sense I was showing my father how to hug, and as he squeezed, something happened. For an instant, a feeling of I love you bubbled through. For years our greeting had been a cold and formal handshake that said, Hello, how are you? Now, both he and I waited for that momentary closeness to happen again.

Yet, just at the moment when he would begin to enjoy the feelings of love, something would tighten in his upper torso and our hug would become awkward and strange. It took months before his rigidness gave way and he was able to let the emotions inside him pass through his arms to encircle me.

It was up to me to be the source of many hugs before my father initiated a hug on his own. I was not blaming him, but supporting him; after all, he was changing the habits of an entire lifetime – and that takes time. I knew we were succeeding because more and more we were relating out of care and affection.

Around the two-hundredth hug, he spontaneously said out loud, for the first time I could ever recall, I love you.

-By Harold H. Bloomfield; posted on http://topmoralstories.blogspot.com, by Vikas Goyal.
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Problems in Spiritual Evolution

Posted by kathavarta on November 10, 2008

Many people around the Universe worship many kinds of deities; saints and angels in Christianity; devas and Trimurti -Brahma, Vishnu and Shiva- in India; great Muslim leaders in Islam; Bodhisattvas and a great array of deities in Tibetan Budism.

This is a great problem in most religions. We begin praying to the Supreme and then we find ourselves praying to lower spiritual entities, that in some cases, we find more accessible towards our demands, giving us material gains and other things that we want, but that might perilously obstruct our spiritual evolution.

By worshipping these deities, we create a spiritual connection with them, so we merge into their energy, and the stains that their souls have, because of past wrongful actions, contaminate our souls creating in us tremendous problems that will be present in this life, or in future incarnations, such as sicknesses, sorrows, sufferings, calamities, physical deformities, mental retardation, etc.

Another problem is that material gains and fortunes are prayed for and accrued by the devotees, then the deities, take away in turn, from the devotees, punya -merit or light within the soul- and baghyam -good luck stored within the soul acquired by performing good deeds- causing further lowering of their soul.

The deities, saints, angels, etc. have not attained spiritual liberation. Patanjali Maharshi, compiler of “Patanjali Yoga Sutra,” famous book on yoga, had gone on record saying that “the yogi -person who practices yoga in order to evolve spiritually- must be very careful about deities -devas. They are more jealous of the human beings than a fellow human being can ever be.” They always prevent the spiritual progress of a yogi. Hence a yogi should be very much cautious of them lest they deceive him/her, so that he/she cannot elevate himself/herself spiritually and become a rival to them. It is understandable that the worshippers of these devious deities can never attain spiritual perfection, because a deity can only give to his/her worshipper what he/she has attained for himself/herself in the spiritual path.

India’s Puranas, epics and Vedas -India’s sacred books of knowledge- prescribe a laborious method of long term practice for the attainment of spiritual realization.

The present age, which we live in, is Kali Yuga -era of great spiritual upliftment where we can evolve at a much faster rate than in previous eras. Hence it is the age of Gurumargam or the path of Guru. Though Gurumargam has been in vogue in all ages, it is only in Kali Yuga -actual era-, Guru illuminates in fullness and the Supreme is worshipped and attained through Guru. Through a fully realized Guru, people will be able to attain spiritual liberation. This Great Soul is the only one capable of dispelling ignorance in people, helping them to live and act righteously and thus enhancing their growth materially, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

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Doubts on Guru and Guru’s Grace

Posted by kathavarta on November 10, 2008

Spiritual realization cannot come to you as a miracle done by your Guru. Buddha, Jesus, Moses, Mohammed, Rama Tirtha have all done sadhana -spiritual practices. Krishna asks Arjuna to develop vairagya -dispassion- and abhyasa -practice. He did not say to him, “I will give you mukti -liberation- now.” Therefore, abandon the wrong notion that your Guru will give you instant liberation. You have to strive, perform positive deeds, pray, meditate and realize. The seeker should not sit idle. He must work hard in order to attain liberation. The more you practice, the more benefit for your soul. Nowadays, many people want a magic pill to push them into full realization. If you have got such delusion, give it up immediately.

God, Almighty, guides you through a fully realized Guru. This spiritual master can show you the path. He/She can help removing your doubts and he/she is able to purify your soul. You must always act up to his/her instructions with faith, devotion and a total surrender. The Guru transmits his/her spiritual Light to the seeker purifying, transforming and spiritualizing him. No doubt, the Guru’s blessings or Guru’s grace is very important in your spiritual evolution, but you must keep in mind that you must deserve this blessings or grace by performing positive karma -righteous thoughts, words and actions-, and then alone his/her grace and blessings can do everything.

The Guru’s grace descends upon those who feel faithful to him. Real faith is a total confidence and trust in the Guru. Faith is firm conviction of the truth of what is declared by the preceptor, by way either of testimony or authority, without any other evidence or proof. The student can imbibe or draw Light and knowledge from his/her teacher, in proportion to his/her degree of faith, devotion and surrender.

The Guru tests the students in various ways. Some students misunderstand him/her and lose their faith in him/her. Hence they are not benefited. The Guru always knows what is the best for your soul. Christ stated: “judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.” (John 7:24). By not possessing full spiritual knowledge, we will not be able to completely understand the actions of a fully realized soul. That is why you should never judge such a great soul. Always remember that it is impossible to fully understand the nature of the actions of a fully realized soul, so never judge him/her, or you will end up immersed into chaos and confusion. Measure not his/her divine nature with the inadequate yardstick of your ignorance. Criticize not your Guru’s action which is always done on universal vision. His/Her knowledge and experience is so vast that we will not be able to fully understand him/her. He/She only knows what is good for your soul and that he/she will give you. Maybe you will not like it but you must always remember that what he/she gives or instructs you, is the best for your spiritual growth.

Due to your ever-changing mind sometimes doubts emerge towards your Guru: “is He/She really helping me,” “I do not feel any change within my soul,” “is heshe really a manifestation of God,” “am I imagining things about his/her divine nature,” “why does he/she answer me in such a way,” “he/she does not smile at me as frequently as he/she does to others,” “he/she does not give me what I want from him/her,” “why should I surrender to a Guru, it is an absurdity,” “I have the capacity to evolve by myself,” “I do not need anyone to attain spiritual liberation,” etc.

All these ideas should be annihilated immediately because there is a great danger that I can perceive in darshans -spiritual visions. When you lose faith in your Guru, or there is a doubt or rebelliousness towards him/her, then automatically the spiritual connection that you have with your spiritual master diminishes, and you tend to move away from that precious Light that strengthens and purifies your soul, losing a precious opportunity to evolve at a higher pace, then you may undoubtedly go astray without the protection of that divine Light. This process is automatic, so be very careful on this matter. Whenever wrong ideas about your Guru rise in your mind, you must immediately pray to your Guru or to the Almighty in order to extinguish these wrongful thoughts.

Because of their ego, some become self-sufficient, arrogant, and self-assertive in these days. They do not care to carry the spiritual instructions of a Guru. They think they are in a state of super consciousness when they do not know even the A-B-C of spirituality. This is the reason why they do not grow. This is a very common mistake nowadays. Ego is the archenemy on the path of spiritual evolution.

As stated before, sage Agasthiar, one of the Eighteen Tamil Yoga Siddhas, declared that he had depended on his own self and vanity, and this had deprived him of the attainment of wisdom.

Source: www.santhigiri.com.
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The Fir-Tree and the Bramble

Posted by kathavarta on November 1, 2008

A FIR-TREE said boastingly to the Bramble, “You are useful for nothing at all; while I am everywhere used for roofs and houses.”

The Bramble answered: “You poor creature, if you would only call to mind the axes and saws which are about to hew you down, you would have reason to wish that you had grown up a Bramble, not a Fir-Tree.”

Moral:
Better poverty without care, than riches with.
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An insect falls into a mug of beer

Posted by kathavarta on October 28, 2008

Englishman: Throws his mug away and walks out

American: Takes the insect out and drinks the beer

Chinese: Eats the insect and throws the beer away

Indian: Sells the beer to the American and insect to the Chinese and gets a new mug of beer.

Pakistani: Accuses the Indian for throwing insect into his beer, relates the issue to Kashmir, asks the Chinese for Military aid, takes a loan from the American to buy one more mug of beer.

By: Jagadeesh, for http://www.19.5degs.com
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Process of creating the universe

Posted by kathavarta on October 28, 2008

God was in the process of creating the universe. And he was explaining to his subordinates ……………

“Look everything should be in balance.

For every 10 deer there should be a lion.

Look here my fellow angels, here is the country of the United States. I have blessed them with prosperity and money. But at the same time I have given them insecurity and tension….

And here is Africa. I have given them beautiful nature. But at the same time, I have given them climatic extremes….

And here is south America. I have given them lots of forests. But at the same time, I have given them lesser land so that they would have to cut off the forests… So you see fellows, everything should be in balance.”

One of the angels asked… “God, what is this beautiful country here?”

God said “Aha…that is the crown piece of all. INDIA. My most precious creation. It has understanding and friendly people. Sparkling streams, serene mountains. A culture which speaks of the great tradition that they live. Technologically brilliant and with a heart of gold…..”

The angel was quite surprised “But God you said everything should be in balance.”

God replied “Look at the neighbors I gave them” !!

By: Jagadeesh, for http://www.19.5degs.com
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